If You Never Get, " I Am Sorry"

Hello Winners,

We so desire to hear those 3 little words, "I am sorry."  If they are not sincere, what are they really worth to you?   Throughout life people are going to do and say things that are hurtful and we feel that an apology is in order.  Yes, it is, but, don't force anyone to give it and do not feel that there is no closure if you do not get one.  Here is the key, if you can forgive and move passed it, it is better than an empty, "I am sorry."  If something is on your chest let the person know, do not let them walk around oblivious to your feelings.  It is not fair to consider it common sense for them to know that you were wounded by their words.  It is best to have a moment with him/her to express how you feel, but, be prepared to put it behind you after that.  If you do not get an apology,  just use it as a measuring stick to govern your interaction with him/her in the future.

Too often, we feel that an apology equals closure.  However,  your feeling of closure is not predicated on those 3 little words.  Closure really comes from knowing that you are whole without it.  Have I had first-hand experience with feeling the need for an apology and did not get one?  Absolutely, it took me a minute to realize that an apology is not going to provide closure for me, because, I knew that it would not be sincere.  So, what did I do?  I began to examine the character of the person as I came to see it.  You may not come to anything in particular, however, take heed to how a person reacts to you from that point on.  My Dad would always says, "You are what you are when you act."  I found this to be so true and I measure accordingly.  My point is, an apology is not needed to bring wholeness to you.  You are already whole and if it never comes, it will not change the fact that you are whole already.  It is not a good feeling to feel dismissed by anyone, however, keep your power.  Do not give an inch of it away by persistently wanting someone to acknowledge your feelings.  Sometimes, it just may not happen.

If you never get an apology,  it is ok.  You can now see a little clearer into the character of a person and can choose to be cautious. You want to have genuine people in your corner, who will acknowledge you when you are hurt and who will truly care about your heart.  Do not be dismayed, instead, feel relieved about the revelation that you now see what you did not see previously.  Would you rather an empty apology or sincere one?  With that asked, assess, measure and govern things accordingly.

Last, but not least, pray for comfort of your hurt, counsel in dealing with it and look forward to an emotional growth spurt.  Don't be arrested in this, wake up and see you as whole no matter an apology or not.
Jill Scott - When I Wake Up      Posted By: Shonta Evans


With inspiration,
Oreadea

Just Get Off Of The Battlefield Please

Hello my strong Men and Women - my Winners,

My last post was in November, as a blogger, who blogs weekly, I find that it is not the easiest thing to do. With the holidays approaching business became busy.  I will not complain about that, but, I needed to carve out time to get back to my blog.  So, here we go........

I want to inspire you with this post encouraging you to learn to move out of ,not just your own way, but, move out of God's way.  Stop trying to be the player and the coach.  We as humans, run out of energy trying to figure out everything to every situation.  We can't, I know, their is no such thing as the word "can't," but, we can't.  We are not able to see into the future that way or make the impossible possible. Only our Father in His Great Heaven can do that.  Life is no joy ride and many tears we will cry on the journey through it.  However, those bumps in the road are often times, created by us.  We get in the way and cause hardship on ourselves.  When I was going through a rough time in my life.
I remember being in my parent's kitchen and my Dad looked at me and said, "Ree, why do you ask God to fght your battles, but, you stay on the battlefield, get off the battlefield and out of His way, so, He can do what you asked Him to do; get off the field."  I looked at my Dad and he simply said in his loving voice, "Stop trying to do it yourself, you can't figure it all out, it's too much stress; God, on the other hand can fix it all."  I felt a sense of surrender, in my chest, as if for the first time in a long time I could inhale.  Have you noticed when you are going through something and you finally get some relief, you feel like you have been holding your breath for a longtime?  That is how I felt.  I am realizing that many of my posts will probaby reference my Dad and the things he said to me.  I have always referenced his words to family and friends, but, I think more so now that I lost him.   He left this year and his lessons stick right with me; if they help you, I am more than happy to share.

There is no book that touches on every part of life and how to live through your downs and how to find your way up.  Authors write books on specific topic to help the reader meet a need and achieve a goal.  There is one book however, that covers everything.  The answer to any question is in it.  That book is the Bible.  If you are wondering how to get off the battlefield and let God fight your battle, look to your bible for guidance and strength to just pray and be still.  We are so use to being reactive but, it is not always best.  Of course, if there is a report of a hurricane getting ready to make landfall in your city and the weather reporter says, leave your home, head to safety in the next state, you will do that.  However, if a hurricane comes into your life do you really need to scramble and run to and fro trying to stop the hurricane?  No, because that is not possible.  I am referencing my Dad again, he would tell me to find the eye of the hurricane, where the stillness is and just sit right there.  He said that you are going to see all types of debris, maybe even animals being tossed about, but, you stay right in that eye, where there is calm, stay right there until the storm is over.  So, my strong men and women, my winners, prayer and believing is our eye of the storm.  It will your peace in the time of trouble.  But, look at this, if you decide that the battlefield is where you belong and you have to challenge and tackle the situation and fight it yourself, the hurricane may cause injuries that would not have otherwise happened.  We have to just know that God will come through.  He will not allow anything or anyone to destroy you.  But, don't try to hurry Him by running on the field, because, you think that you can help Him.  As someone special to me always says, "one thing for certain, two things for sure......."  So, I say, one thing for certain, two things for sure, God does not need our help to do anything.  The only thing that He ask of us is to believe.  So, if you can just sit down in the eye of that storm and keep still and believe, you will see God's greatness and how He works things out for your good.

I dedicate this video to you


Yolanda Adams - The Battle Is The Lord's


Posted by: BrothaAjay

With inspiration,
Oreadea

You Got This

Greetings Strong Men & Women,

Yes, I know, it is Thursday and you are so ready for Friday, but, you got this.  You may be on a job where you are tired and ready to go home, some are your own boss and you are tired of that too.  But, you must push through the rest of this week and give these last couple of days your best.  Don't let these next couple of days be ruined by anyone that you may encounter.  Just remember words are just words and how you choose to respond is the game changer for your mindset.  Not every comment deserves your time nor attention.  Not every action warrants your reaction.

I need you to focus, get your head in the game and end this week with a bang.  You got this,  if you  need to write out a to do list to keep you on track, do it.  If you need to take a small break and walk a moment, do it.  The power to make the rest of this week a success is in your control.  Watch the video below and grab your motivation.  Why, because, you got this.....

WesleymedeoliTV 

With inspiration,
Oreadea

How To Believe

Hello Everyone,

Life is something that we can not predict it's every twist and turn, we hope, pray and anticipate.  This is where believing and faith comes into play.  We are not made to know everything, nor could we handle it if we did.  God knows how much we can bare and when we can bare it.  Thus, life happens.

So, how does one believe?  First, you must believe that God is almighty and that He keeps His word, no mater what.  We, however, must trust Him and look to Him for help.  One believes by accepting the fact that God may not come when we want Him, but, He is always on time.  One believes by surrendering worries upon Him and trusting that He will come through.  One believes by letting God be there through it all and yield not to how one perceives things should be, but, look forward to God's results, which will far exceed anything one could ever imagine.

I have learned that God is a true friend and wonderful heavenly Father.  He makes His presence known, when we need His shoulder to lean upon, He will let us lean as long as we need.  Someone very near and dear to me once recited the Serenity Prayer to me, I am so thankful.  It helped me so much.  I would always reflect on the first part.  I would like to share the entire prayer with you.

Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference. 
 Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

Believe that God will come through.

With inspiration, 
Oreadea 

If You Don't, You Won't repost

There are places in life where we must make a decision to do or not to do.  Life's cycle is perpetual, each year goes by with or without our cooperation.  We may try to buy time, hold off on things, give ourselves reasons not to do, but guess what, the sun rises, then sets, the moon comes out and it starts all over again the next day.  So, if you don't decide to believe in yourself and make your dreams come true, you won't become who you are meant to become.  

Fear is our worst enemy, but it enjoys being cozy with us.  Fear wants to be our very best friend. Why, so that it can conquer you in spite of the real fact that you have a dream and you know that you have a purpose.  Fear is a bully that will only continue, if you let it.  Here is the good news about fear.  You have power over it.  You can take fear along for a little while.  What do I mean by this?  What I mean is that in the beginning of your journey toward your dreams you may have a little nerves about it, which is fear, but then you must give fear the boot and step out on faith.  So, this is just one moment worth of realization that you are really doing this, pursuing your dreams and after that, the boot.

It is o.k.. to envision, to close your eyes and day dream about becoming, but when does the becoming begin?  You have to do, if you don't, you won't.  Life is here for you to live on purpose and you were put in the cycle of life to live out something wonderful and make a mark on someone somewhere in this world.  But if you don't, you won't.

I am just saying that all things are possible.  This is scripture, so if you can not believe that you can do it, believe the scripture.  If all things are possible, why aren't you included.  We are all included.  It is our own lack of faith in ourselves that keeps the possible from happening.  I was about to say, just imagine you being who you were meant to be, it is time to do, to be, to stand in the place that your purpose has reserved for you.

Just a thought to encourage you.  Don't dare to dream be the dream.  If you don't, you won't.
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Motivational video         Posted by Mateuse M

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Oreadea

Men of Honor repost

Welcome back to "Men of Honor"

Men go through so much and for the women reading this entry, it is important that we show them that they are appreciated.  We should never assume, because they are men, they are strong all by themselves.  We need to tell them and show them that they matter to us and to the world, that they are special in your eyes.  This entry is to motivate the men and to give the so hope as they pursue their dreams.

Get ready to be inspired. ETtheHipHopPreacher

WesleyMedeoliTV

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Oreadea

When You Are Hurting

Hello Strong Men & Women,

I have been having conversations with so many hurt or simply unhappy people lately, it seems. I feel compelled to blog on the subject.  You know, I see hurt as something that is considered indescribable and unreachable.  Hurt can take one to a place of surrender, wherein, you give in to what you have been fighting against.  For example, someone may be determined not to be emotionally affected by someone close to them that puts them down, but the day comes when everything makes for the perfect storm, the melt down, when all emotions are on the loose and the pressure cooker explodes.    

I had various conversations with individuals that touched on reasons why they feel hurt or unhappy.  So, I am thinking, what can I say to ease their hurt or unhappiness, but it is also good to listen and say  a prayer in your heart. I am not an expert who can say do this and you will be rid of all hurt and unhappiness.  But, I do know from experience that prayer and actively working on becoming strong is vital in healing.  Sometimes, the people that we let into our lives do not have overall good intentions and do not reciprocate kindness, real sense of friendship and genuine compassion for others.  In many cases, there are relationships and friendships that are broken because one hurt the other.

I could go through many situations where people become hurt and unhappy.  Instead, I want to encourage anyone reading this who is hurt and just can not figure out why this happened.  First, I say, for every moment that you want to play back what happened, don't, pray instead,  give yourself room to feel the sadness that it brings then, be thankful for the revelation.  Sometimes, when we see things after the fact, we get upset, which is human, but be thankful too that you know what you did not know before.  Second, I want to say, do not place blame on you for not seeing or maybe you decided to ignore signs.  All you can do from here is take in the lesson and apply it to your future.  Give yourself credit for even feeling hurt.  Some people just are cold and care very little.  Just to have feelings that are real and can be extended to another is in its own way a blessing.  If you are caring and loving remain that way.  Do not become bitter and begin to build the highest emotional wall ever, just be thankful for the heart that you have to be kind, gentle, thoughtful, understanding and good, by no means does this make you gullible.  It makes you human, living in God's light.

Never feel that you can not recover from pain and unhappiness.  It is a part of life and we have to  go through it with hope and courage.  You can recover, you can find happiness, you can heal, you can find peace of mind.  Let God help, He will listen and will never walk away.


Posted by:  Richard Arsenault                     I'm Over Now - Biship Marvin Winans

With inspiration,
Oreadea

Are You Comfortable? Repost

Hello Strong Men & Women,

Do you feel quite content with where you are, but still have a dream?  How can that be you ask?  Well, it can  happen by feeling that you have done pretty good for yourself, a decent job, financially fit and just satisfied.  Then, you look at your dream and determine, it does not seem attainable, but that is no big deal, because........you are comfortable, no real complaints right?

Comfort does not necessarily equal true fulfillment, until you pursue your dreams and make them happen, you should not lay back in your easy chair.  There is more life to be had.  When we see dreams as being unattainable, that is when negative thoughts begin to tell you, "look at that dream, it is too far for you to reach," "You need to be satisfied with what you have accomplished, not many have done what you have done, stop trying to be so happy."  Have you heard this one, "Why put yourself through the pressures of going after that dream, it is not worth facing its' challenges, you are afraid anyway?" All of this is just mental noise and has nothing to do with anything until, you listen to it.

Get out of being comfortable, step out of your comfort zone and start getting in motion.  It does not have to be a quick motion.  It is like riding a bike, the gears have to get in alignment, you have to repeatedly peddle for a nice smooth ride, but to get to that point, you start out with a slow peddling motion, you have to hold on to the handle bars to really get some momentum, but if you just stay in motion, keep peddling......guess what, it begins to happen, it gets easier and now you can ride with no hands.  Hills maybe in the path, but, if you keep peddling, you will make it to the top, because you stayed in motion.  As fun as biking is, it is not always easy, it takes effort, safety gear, which for us, is ...prayer.  However, along the way, you will see beautiful scenes, you may meet others who share your ambitions, there will be nice smooth surfaces.  It will not happen if you do not try and to your surprise, you might become uncomfortable.

My message is, do not consider comfortable as where you should be.  If you do not have dreams and are truly satisfied, then, be comfortable.  This does not pertain to you.  But, if you have this burning desire that just will not leave you alone, then you need to get in motion and stay in motion.  Do not stop because of negative thoughts or even negative comments from others.  This has always been my feeling, those that do not support my dreams did not make me.  He who crafted and created me and wired me a certain way has given me this dream, ultimately, the dream is actually my purpose.  So, my dream constantly nudges me and keeps me in motion.  I am going to keep peddling until I get there.  So, for you, please keep peddling too:)
Posted by: TubeTV                                                 Go Get It - Mary Mary

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Oreadea

Men of Honor

Hello Strong Men & Women,

This is a repost for today, we are lifting up men.  You deserve to be motivated and encouraged to keep going.  Your days are not always good, but, you push through it and for that, you are Strong Men of Honor.  This also goes out to you Paul.

 "Men of Honor"

                Fred Hammond "Lord Your Grace"  posted Groove4dayz

With inspiration
Oreadea

If You Never Get An Apology

We so desire to hear those 3 little words, "I am sorry."  If they are not sincere, what are they really worth to you?   Throughout life people are going to do and say things that are hurtful and we feel that an apology is in order.  Yes, it is, but, don't force anyone to give it and do not feel that there is no closure if you do not get one.  Here is the key, if you can forgive and move passed it, it is better than an empty, "I am sorry."  If something is on your chest let the person know, do not let them walk around oblivious to your feelings.  It is not fair to consider it common sense for them to know that you were wounded by their words.  It is best to have a moment with him/her to express how you feel, but, be prepared to put it behind you after that.  If you do not get an apology,  just use it as a measuring stick to govern your interaction with him/her in the future.

Too often, we feel that an apology equals closure.  However,  your feeling of closure is not predicated on those 3 little words.  Closure really comes from knowing that you are whole without it.  Have I had first-hand experience with feeling the need for an apology and did not get one?  Absolutely, it took me a minute to realize that an apology is not going to provide closure for me, because, I knew that it would not be sincere.  So, what did I do?  I began to examine the character of the person as I came to see it.  You may not come to anything in particular, however, take heed to how a person reacts to you from that point on.  My Dad would always says, "You are what you are when you act."  I found this to be so true and I measure accordingly.  My point is, an apology is not needed to bring wholeness to you.  You are already whole and if it never comes, it will not change the fact that you are whole already.  It is not a good feeling to feel dismissed by anyone, however, keep your power.  Do not give an inch of it away by persistently wanting someone to acknowledge your feelings.  Sometimes, it just may not happen.

If you never get an apology,  it is ok.  You can now see a little clearer into the character of a person and can choose to be cautious. You want to have genuine people in your corner, who will acknowledge you when you are hurt and who will truly care about your heart.  Do not be dismayed, instead, feel relieved about the revelation that you now see what you did not see previously.  Would you rather an empty apology or sincere one?  With that asked, assess, measure and govern things accordingly.

Last, but not least, pray for comfort of your hurt, counsel in dealing with it and look forward to an emotional growth spurt.  Don't be arrested in this, wake up and see you as whole no matter an apology or not.
Jill Scott - When I Wake Up      Posted By: Shonta Evans

https://youtu.be/bRD-UrveqBQ With inspiration,
Oreadea

When You Don't Feel Ready For Change

Hello Strong Men & Women,

There comes a time in life when change is inevitable, but, we are just not ready.  The part of us that is not ready, is uncomfortable and can not see all that change will bring.  However, if it is for the better of your health, sanity or spiritual well being, then guess what, you are in for a pleasant surprise.  Many times, we become complacent in pain, misery, grief or meritocracy and there is no real vision or perception of change, it is too unfamiliar.  Complacency steals time, joy and dreams.  We are made to fulfill purpose in life, God does not want us to not live our purpose, nor does He want us to stay stuck in any situation.

Change can be shockingly painful, because, we realize that we may have to leave others behind that pull us down, let go of negative situations in our lives, give God control and do as He says and at times, it can really hurt.  However, it is what is best, if we truly want to be happy.

Change for the better can only make you better.  There is nothing that God can not do, so you know that He can step right in the middle of your situation and pull you to the top.  We only get (1) life and it is not for others to destroy, but for us to live and live it to the best of our ability.  We can not control others, but we can be in control of us.  We know in our hearts what is going to improve our life, it is the sigh of not wanting this to be our reality, but most times, it is.  Therefore, if we choose not to change, the situation will only stay the same or worsen.  My advice to you is to pray, tell God your fears, but also, give Him your trust.

You will be o.k. You may not be ready for change, change is ready for you.

I hope the song below inspires you.

Smokie Norful "The Middle" Posted By TAFaithMinistries

With inspiration,
Oreadea

God Knows

Hello Everyone,

I want to impress upon you to never feel or think that you are invisible to God or that He can not hear your silent prayers.  He hears and sees you.  He just may not move at the pace we want, but it is out of love for us that He moves at His timing.  His timing is perfect.  So, with that said, here is a poem, I composed for you.

God Knows

You cry inside with tears on the rim of your eyes

You hide your scream in the wind, because you can no longer scream within

You wear a mask so no one will know, parading  an unauthentic smile so that your hurt will not show

He Knows

The leaves on the trees shake because they feel your fear

The wolves slowly creep, they smell you near

They smell your lack of hope, your weakening ability to cope,

they smell the emptiness of your soul, they plan for your fall while creeping low

God awaits to protect you, He already knows

There is no way that you can feel that God can not understand

No problem so big that He can not crush with His Hand

No sorrow so sad that He can not give His peace

No hurt so deep that He can not reach

No seed so small from which flowers can not grow

Nothing so secret that He will not know

God knows you and is always there,

He shows up in so many ways to show how  He cares

He blocks you from danger of which you may never be aware

 If you just have faith the size of a mustard seed

That is all He asks, is just for your belief

No matter what comes and no matter what goes

God is there in advance, because, He already knows

Trueyouness

copyright 2014

How To Believe

Hello Everyone,

Life is something that we can not predict it's every twist and turn, we hope, pray and anticipate.  This is where believing and faith comes into play.  We are not made to know everything, nor could we handle it if we did.  God knows how much we can bare and when we can bare it.  Thus, life happens.

So, how does one believe?  First, you must believe that God is almighty and that He keeps His word no mater what.  We, however, must trust Him and look to Him for help.  One believes by accepting the fact that God may not come when we want Him, but, He is always on time.  One believes by surrendering worries upon Him and trusting that He will come through.  One believes by letting God be there through it all and yield not to how one perceives things should be, but, look forward to God's results, which will far exceed anything one could ever imagine.

I have learned that God is a true friend and wonderful heavenly Father.  He makes His presence known, when we need His shoulder to lean upon, He will let us lean as long as we need.  Someone very near and dear to me once recited the Serenity Prayer to me, I am so thankful.  It helped me so much.  I would always reflect on the first part.  I would like to share the entire prayer with you.

Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
 Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

Believe that God will come through.

With inspiration, 
Oreadea 

Hello Everyone,

I am so sorry for not being consistent, what I have been going through has taken a toll and my heart really wanted to write, but I just did not have the words.  I am on Facebook and it is easy to just post, but it takes energy and drive to write.  So, here I am again, but this time, I will write for now, at least once a week.  If I can help or encourage someone, I feel it in my heart to do that even in my storm.

So, to start here is a song of encouragement.  I have learned first hand, that faith is truly a walk of believing that God is there when you cry, smile or are just lost for words.  He just wants to help and give love to heal our hearts, but it is a matter of giving him the broken pieces. 



Smokie Norful "I Know Too Much About Him"   Posted by: ULLKayKay

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Oreadea

What Is Your Monday Song?

Here is my Monday song?


Fantasia Barrino  "I Believe"   Posted by Remington


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Oreadea

What Is Your Monday Song?

Welcome back, here is my Monday song....

Canton Spiritual "I'm in Your Care"   Posted by: bigbofy


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Oreadea

A Message and My Monday Song

Hello everyone,

As I began this inspirational blog, I shared that I was going through something.  Well, recently, I threw myself into loads of projects to get through, but wore myself down instead.  I needed a break and some new found strength.  So, in faith, I will continue on and try my best to inspire you.

Here is my Monday song...

"My Soul is Anchored"  Douglas Miller   Posted by robieatnsudotcom

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Oreadea

Men of Honor

Welcome back to Men of Honor


ETtheHipHopPreacher  "Waiting on My Moment"

Mali Music "Fight for You"

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Oreadea

What Is Your Monday Song?

Here is my Monday song. I hope it touches someone.
"Something About The Name Jesus"  Rance Allen Group
Posted by Edwine Taylor

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Oreadea

What Is Your Monday Song?

Oh yes, here is my Monday song......  Let us pray for Fred Hammond as he recovers. He posted on his FB page that he has 8 more weeks of physical therapy.  Here is one of his great songs.


Fred Hammond "No Greater Love"  Posted by Groove4dayz

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Oreadea