Hello Winners,
We so desire to hear those 3 little words, "I am sorry." If they are not sincere, what are they really worth to you? Throughout life people are going to do and say things that are hurtful and we feel that an apology is in order. Yes, it is, but, don't force anyone to give it and do not feel that there is no closure if you do not get one. Here is the key, if you can forgive and move passed it, it is better than an empty, "I am sorry." If something is on your chest let the person know, do not let them walk around oblivious to your feelings. It is not fair to consider it common sense for them to know that you were wounded by their words. It is best to have a moment with him/her to express how you feel, but, be prepared to put it behind you after that. If you do not get an apology, just use it as a measuring stick to govern your interaction with him/her in the future.
Too often, we feel that an apology equals closure. However, your feeling of closure is not predicated on those 3 little words. Closure really comes from knowing that you are whole without it. Have I had first-hand experience with feeling the need for an apology and did not get one? Absolutely, it took me a minute to realize that an apology is not going to provide closure for me, because, I knew that it would not be sincere. So, what did I do? I began to examine the character of the person as I came to see it. You may not come to anything in particular, however, take heed to how a person reacts to you from that point on. My Dad would always says, "You are what you are when you act." I found this to be so true and I measure accordingly. My point is, an apology is not needed to bring wholeness to you. You are already whole and if it never comes, it will not change the fact that you are whole already. It is not a good feeling to feel dismissed by anyone, however, keep your power. Do not give an inch of it away by persistently wanting someone to acknowledge your feelings. Sometimes, it just may not happen.
If you never get an apology, it is ok. You can now see a little clearer into the character of a person and can choose to be cautious. You want to have genuine people in your corner, who will acknowledge you when you are hurt and who will truly care about your heart. Do not be dismayed, instead, feel relieved about the revelation that you now see what you did not see previously. Would you rather an empty apology or sincere one? With that asked, assess, measure and govern things accordingly.
Last, but not least, pray for comfort of your hurt, counsel in dealing with it and look forward to an emotional growth spurt. Don't be arrested in this, wake up and see you as whole no matter an apology or not.
Jill Scott - When I Wake Up Posted By: Shonta Evans
With inspiration,
Oreadea
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Thursday, January 31, 2019
Thursday, April 11, 2013
The Past Is Behind You, Not Before You
Hello Everyone,
The past is a place in life that does not have to haunt you. There are those that will feel that it is their duty to judge you, false. It is their duty to be true to who they are and judge no one. People are imperfect and some will do very regrettable things that they wish could be taken back,but there is no way to make that happen. So, they punish themselves by constantly reminding themselves of what they have done. Self imprisonment is only built by the hands of one's own mind, meaning, the thoughts lock one in a state of regress. Self condemnation will keep one feeling undeserving of a second chance at life to include, happiness, success, love and trust. God will give you a second chance at life and not judge you that is really what matters. If you are a changed person who does not do the things you use to, and you are true to that, then live like a new person. Be your number one advocate.
Your past does not define you today so, do not let others wash your face with your past, sometimes others are toxic to your growth and they should probably have a back sit in your life, no longer front row. Surround yourself with positivity and positive people, read positive materials, read a scripture everyday from which to receive spiritual nourishment. You need to hear positive things and see positive acts, give yourself positive reinforcement for being a person of change. Your mind needs to know that there has been a change, think good thoughts and say good things to yourself. "Positive Thoughts, Positive Talk," is my slogan. If someone says to you, I remember when you........it is truly o.k. to stop them mid-sentence and say today is new, my past is where it belongs or just let them know boundaries are being overstepped and do not defend your position. Hold your head up and believe that you are great today and that God wanted you here, He blew the breathe of life into you and woke you up to see another day. This let's you know that you have the right to live not simply exist. Let God's grace be the fire underneath you that motivates you to live in your second chance.
Do not regret your today, it is a grand opportunity to pursue happiness and the you that shines. Looking back should not be an option, just focus on looking ahead, step out of the self-made prison and knock it down. As hard as it may seem, replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts, challenge yourself to face fears and believe in your abilities to conquer them. Hey, remember, your past is where it belongs and it should not do anything, but stay there. As you begin this transformation and are told by others that you have changed and you're not like you use to be. Well, that is the idea, take it as a compliment, smile and say thanks. They are right, you have changed and for the better. Make your best effort to live for today and it will become your way of life. It is so great that you have the power to live in happiness.
Israel Houghton Moving Forward
With inspiration,
Oreadea
Follow me on twitter https://twitter.com/trueyouness
The past is a place in life that does not have to haunt you. There are those that will feel that it is their duty to judge you, false. It is their duty to be true to who they are and judge no one. People are imperfect and some will do very regrettable things that they wish could be taken back,but there is no way to make that happen. So, they punish themselves by constantly reminding themselves of what they have done. Self imprisonment is only built by the hands of one's own mind, meaning, the thoughts lock one in a state of regress. Self condemnation will keep one feeling undeserving of a second chance at life to include, happiness, success, love and trust. God will give you a second chance at life and not judge you that is really what matters. If you are a changed person who does not do the things you use to, and you are true to that, then live like a new person. Be your number one advocate.
Your past does not define you today so, do not let others wash your face with your past, sometimes others are toxic to your growth and they should probably have a back sit in your life, no longer front row. Surround yourself with positivity and positive people, read positive materials, read a scripture everyday from which to receive spiritual nourishment. You need to hear positive things and see positive acts, give yourself positive reinforcement for being a person of change. Your mind needs to know that there has been a change, think good thoughts and say good things to yourself. "Positive Thoughts, Positive Talk," is my slogan. If someone says to you, I remember when you........it is truly o.k. to stop them mid-sentence and say today is new, my past is where it belongs or just let them know boundaries are being overstepped and do not defend your position. Hold your head up and believe that you are great today and that God wanted you here, He blew the breathe of life into you and woke you up to see another day. This let's you know that you have the right to live not simply exist. Let God's grace be the fire underneath you that motivates you to live in your second chance.
Do not regret your today, it is a grand opportunity to pursue happiness and the you that shines. Looking back should not be an option, just focus on looking ahead, step out of the self-made prison and knock it down. As hard as it may seem, replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts, challenge yourself to face fears and believe in your abilities to conquer them. Hey, remember, your past is where it belongs and it should not do anything, but stay there. As you begin this transformation and are told by others that you have changed and you're not like you use to be. Well, that is the idea, take it as a compliment, smile and say thanks. They are right, you have changed and for the better. Make your best effort to live for today and it will become your way of life. It is so great that you have the power to live in happiness.
With inspiration,
Oreadea
Follow me on twitter https://twitter.com/trueyouness
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