Are You Comfortable?

Hello Strong Men & Women,

Do you feel quite content with where you are, but still have a dream?  How can that be you ask?  Well, it can  happen by feeling that you have done pretty good for yourself, a decent job, financially fit and just satisfied.  Then, you look at your dream and determine, it does not seem attainable, but that is no big deal, because........you are comfortable, no real complaints right?

Comfort does not necessarily equal true fulfillment, until you pursue your dreams and make them happen, you should not lay back in your easy chair.  There is more life to be had.  When we see dreams as being unattainable, that is when negative thoughts begin to tell you, "look at that dream, it is too far for you to reach," "You need to be satisfied with what you have accomplished, not many have done what you have done, stop trying to be so happy."  Have you heard this one, "Why put yourself through the pressures of going after that dream, it is not worth facing its' challenges, you are afraid anyway?" All of this is just mental noise and has nothing to do with anything until, you listen to it.

Get out of being comfortable, step out of your comfort zone and start getting in motion.  It does not have to be a quick motion.  It is like riding a bike, the gears have to get in alignment, you have to repeatedly peddle for a nice smooth ride, but to get to that point, you start out with a slow peddling motion, you have to hold on to the handle bars to really get some momentum, but if you just stay in motion, keep peddling......guess what, it begins to happen, it gets easier and now you can ride with no hands.  Hills maybe in the path, but, if you keep peddling, you will make it to the top, because you stayed in motion.  As fun as biking is, it is not always easy, it takes effort, safety gear, which for us, is ...prayer.  However, along the way, you will see beautiful scenes, you may meet others who share your ambitions, there will be nice smooth surfaces.  It will not happen if you do not try and to your surprise, you might become uncomfortable.

My message is, do not consider comfortable as where you should be.  If you do not have dreams and are truly satisfied, then, be comfortable.  This does not pertain to you.  But, if you have this burning desire that just will not leave you alone, then you need to get in motion and stay in motion.  Do not stop because of negative thoughts or even negative comments from others.  This has always been my feeling, those that do not support my dreams did not make me.  He who crafted and created me and wired me a certain way has given me this dream, ultimately, the dream is actually my purpose.  So, my dream constantly nudges me and keeps me in motion.  I am going to keep peddling until I get there.  So, for you, please keep peddling too:)
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With inspiration,
Oreadea

If You Never Get An Apology

We so desire to hear those 3 little words, "I am sorry."  If they are not sincere, what are they really worth to you?   Throughout life people are going to do and say things that are hurtful and we feel that an apology is in order.  Yes, it is, but, don't force anyone to give it and do not feel that there is no closure if you do not get one.  Here is the key, if you can forgive and move passed it, it is better than an empty, "I am sorry."  If something is on your chest let the person know, do not let them walk around oblivious to your feelings.  It is not fair to consider it common sense for them to know that you were wounded by their words.  It is best to have a moment with him/her to express how you feel, but, be prepared to put it behind you after that.  If you do not get an apology,  just use it as a measuring stick to govern your interaction with him/her in the future.

Too often, we feel that an apology equals closure.  However,  your feeling of closure is not predicated on those 3 little words.  Closure really comes from knowing that you are whole without it.  Have I had first-hand experience with feeling the need for an apology and did not get one?  Absolutely, it took me a minute to realize that an apology is not going to provide closure for me, because, I knew that it would not be sincere.  So, what did I do?  I began to examine the character of the person as I came to see it.  You may not come to anything in particular, however, take heed to how a person reacts to you from that point on.  My Dad would always says, "You are what you are when you act."  I found this to be so true and I measure accordingly.  My point is, an apology is not needed to bring wholeness to you.  You are already whole and if it never comes, it will not change the fact that you are whole already.  It is not a good feeling to feel dismissed by anyone, however, keep your power.  Do not give an inch of it away by persistently wanting someone to acknowledge your feelings.  Sometimes, it just may not happen.

If you never get an apology,  it is ok.  You can now see a little clearer into the character of a person and can choose to be cautious. You want to have genuine people in your corner, who will acknowledge you when you are hurt and who will truly care about your heart.  Do not be dismayed, instead, feel relieved about the revelation that you now see what you did not see previously.  Would you rather an empty apology or sincere one?  With that asked, assess, measure and govern things accordingly.

Last, but not least, pray for comfort of your hurt, counsel in dealing with it and look forward to an emotional growth spurt.  Don't be arrested in this, wake up and see you as whole no matter an apology or not.
Jill Scott - When I Wake Up      Posted By: Shonta Evans

https://youtu.be/bRD-UrveqBQ With inspiration,
Oreadea