Words Have Power

Hello Everyone,

I had an interesting conversation the other day about someone who said something quite hurtful to someone else.  The centerpiece to the conversation was why would someone say something so hurtful to someone that they knew it would hurt deeply?  Then my brother said that my niece told him in a different conversation that "dad, hurt people, hurt people."  I have heard this so many times and it is really the answer to a large number of whys, why did he say that, why would she say this?  It does not excuse it, but provides an answer.

My paternal grandmother use to always tell the family, and it is a whole lot of us, but she would take the time to say, "taste your words before you say them and if they taste bitter do not say them, once they go out, you can not take them back."  Words have such power and we know this to be true, everyone at some point and time have had hurt feelings simply by what another has said. Could it be that the saying, misery loves company has a long measure of truth.  Do those that are hurt want others to join them in their misery so, they let their hurt get the best of them by lashing out at those who care?

Here is what I ponder, and I welcome comments to share your insight and perspective, if someone is hurt,  why hurt the person or persons that are showing love?  I am not sure how often the person that did the hurting ever gets to see how hurt the person really is.  Hurt people regularly lash out toward those that care the most and the words spoken can never be taken back?  This can damage a healthy relationship with family and friends.  Is it a case of the walking wounded, everyone near the wound is at risk to catch the raft of one's pain?  If this is so, how can it be remedied before it becomes toxic for those that have done nothing to hurt the one that is hurt.

The bible speaks of the power of the tongue.  It is important to make a conscious effort not to be one that inflicts hurt on others even if there is hurt within oneself. One thing I know for sure is that hurt people are wounded people that need healing.

I would like to read your thoughts and feelings about it.  Do not feel compelled, but if you would like to post a comment or words of encouragement that may help someone, feel free. 

A dedication video to those that are hurt

                                                            video by +jwalkerjessie by song by Fred Hammond

With inspiration,
Oreadea