The Honor of Men

Hello Everyone,

I have held this topic for a little while, because, I was not sure how to really write on it.  Yet, it is quite simple, I will say what I feel. In this entry I am honoring men and would like for the ladies to join me.  Any woman that has a man in her life,son, husband, boyfriend, brother, nephew.

Why did I pick this topic you say?  Well, I have just seen how burdened men can become and it seems that so much is expected of them to be able to handle everything, but they can not.  How does the saying go "no man is an island."  They can not do everything alone.  Men are human beings who need encouragement, understanding and a sense of peace, just like us.

So many men work by the sweat of their brow and are in everyday battles that challenge them as a men.  An example could be getting overlooked on the job for credit on his accomplishment, but someone else took the credit or unfortunately, being taken for granted by a wife or girlfriend.  Ladies, do not get upset please - but, in some relationships, in the heat of an argument, some women will say, "you are not a man," that sends a dagger right into the very part of him that should be handled gently, his heart. Those words should never be spoken.  Sometimes, we have to be upset and not say anything until calmness happens.

Just as we as women want to be appreciated and respected, I think men need the same.  We can not say that men are suppose to do this or that and leave it there.  If a man does what he is suppose to do, then acknowledge him for it.  Of course, I have no experience being a man and could never be, but I see the hard work and sacrifices so many men make everyday.  I recall my dad, as a child I would be sure to be outside when he came home from work and in his hard dress shoes and suit, he would race me to the corner and race me back.  This is after a long hard day of work.  It did not stop there, the neighborhood boys would play football in front of where I lived almost everyday, so when my dad finished racing me, the boys would start calling my dad's name for the sake of the entry I will just call my dad Mr. Davenport.  So, they are yelling, "Mr. Davenport catch," my dad would take off running and catch the football, still in his suit and dress shoes, which then turned into him playing catch for about 5 minutes before going inside.  I am sure this is the day and life of men with families, as soon as they walk through their front door, they are met with everyone in the home needing time and attention before anything else.  And for all that they do that we know about and for all that they endure that we do not know about, we should honor them.  

We do not think that men are emotional, but they are, they are more guarded about their feelings.  So, if they can not trust us with their emotions, they will not share them.  Women are known for getting their feelings out, men are not, but it does not mean that they do not feel as sad or hurt as we can.  We do have different ways of communicating and men need to be able to trust that we will not throw something they have shared with us in their faces when we get upset.  Security is key to men as it is to women.  They want to know that we have their backs and are their friend.

Ladies, can we begin to honor the men more?  We have to let all of the men in our lives know that we are proud that they work, are in school, handled a situation well, were thoughtful, made an effort, are doing their best.  It is so easy to give some encouragement.  How about it Ladies, let's let them know we are thinking about them and appreciate them:)

                                           Always on My Mind sung by Fantasia

With inspiration,
Oreadea