Stop Breaking Your Own Heart

Hello Strong Men & Women,

I posted on my IG last evening a vignette of Fantasia Barrino (Taylor) sing "Free Yourself" to hopefully open eyes to the possibility of being really happy.  This is 2018, there is no more time or room for anyone who does not treat you good, who does not make you smile, instead you feel lonely and not cared about.  (First, let me say, there are individuals out there that are victims of abuse and there is a different dynamic here.  I urge anyone being abused to talk with someone who can help in dealing with the how and when for such a relationship.  Please call National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224).  For those who are not in an abusive relationship and you are holding out hope for a person who is showing you better than they can tell you, that they have no respect for you and have no plans to make you happy, instead, they dishonor you and treat you with disdain, you must begin to count the cost of this. You may feel like you will be too hurt to get over someone, so far from true.  Will you hurt, yes...will it take time to get over him or her, yes, it will.  However, it is the decision to realize your worth and what you deserve (happiness) that will help you to breathe again.  I want to be careful about this, because, I am not saying that you must leave any relationship, I am saying, if you are unhappy, disrespected and made to feel disregarded, you have some thinking to do.  God created us to live a life of purpose, joy and courage, not to be torn and broken down by someone who is filled with a displaced ego, who feels big by making you feel small.  I can say this, because, I once lived it on many levels with someone who I was with for many years. I would have bet my last penny that he would not have been so horrible, guess what,  I would have lost my last penny.  So, I am speaking from a place of experience and not television. When you accept the thoughts that this is the only person in the world for you, you break your own heart.  you are keeping a seat in your life for someone who does not want to earn it and does not have to earn it. You already gave the seat to him or her.

How can you grow if you do not nurture your life in all areas.  You may nuture your health by exercising and that is good, you may eat right to also nurture your health...wonderful, you may pray and go to church to nuture your spirit, this is extremely good, you may take various classes to enhance your knowledge and career...always in order, you may have a great abillity to meet great people and cultivate good friendships....I can go on.  I think you have the idea, you can do all of these things, but if you do not work on and nurture your inner-self, you will always lack peace and contentment.  If you are praying and going to church, do not neglect the obvious.  Stop being afraid to pray for freedom from a relationship that keeps you bound.  You can do many things to nurture your life in various areas, but, if you don't accept what is before you and you leave it to grow weeds it will choke out your efforts in the other areas.  I can tell you with certainty, if you think you may be  unhappy, you are.  There is no one walking the earth who is worth any more of your time, attention and effort, when it is not reciprocated.  No one can be forced to care and show respect if it is not there intent.  You deserve to live with integrity, love and consideration.  Never lessen your value in any situation.  You are not less than, if anything you are more, because of your big heart and sincerity in how you feel about the other person.  Believe it or not, that is a blessing, because your heart is good. You can not be afraid, because you can not see the future without the person who brings you pain,  ask yourself, how will it be if you contine with him or her?  The only way I know to tell you is to begin to give happiness, joy, respect and love your trust and let these wonderful things navigate you to a good space in your head, in your heart and in your spirit.  God will take care of you and will not let you fall.  Many times, we pick who we think we want and do not ask God to send us who we need.  He wants you to live happy in your relationship, not stressed and unsure.  You never need this person, don't believe it, because, it is not anyone's truth.

 I am posting this video to provide a message. The song mentions fighting, which, does not simply mean physical fights, it speaks to verbal fights and the push pull emotional struggles to make it what it is not, you so badly want him or her to honor you and they are not willing to honor you.  Be faithful to you and your happiness, the picture will be clearer.  Ladies and Gentlemen, you deserve love<3

Fantasia "Lose To Win" posted by chanwall2008



With ispiration,
Oreadea

Speak Out, Design Your Destiny, Be Encouraged

Hello everyone,

I have an announcement,  I am now on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/oreadea.trueness?ref=tn_tnmn
So, please visit and like me on Facebook, post comments too.

I am discovering that what my Dad told me and tells me over and over, "Oreadea, you are the architect of your destiny," is true.  I have always worked in the community volunteering and doing advocacy work, but it took an experience to bring me to true activism. I now know first hand what it is like to feel that you have no where to go after everyone you went to ignored you.  I can not say much at this time, but I can say from a stand of experience, that injustice has no place anywhere, we always think when we hear injustice that it is domestic violence, street violence on innocent people or racism, but no, it can raise its' ugly head most often than not in other places.

I just want to encourage silent sufferers, not just in possibly domestic violence situations, but other places as well, to speak out, you are stronger than you think.  If you remain silent, it will cause more harm than good.  Pray often and trust that God in heaven hears you and will carry you through.  Believe me when I say, he will have your back and step between you and those out to harm you for choosing not to remain silent.

So, I said that to say, I am not just deciding to take on such a charge out of simply being moved by stories of injustice, but I actually have my own story.  Take courage and believe in your strength no matter what, God will take care of you, it may not seem reasonable to say, do not worry, because you may be faced with decisions that impact your lively hood and life, but, God has got it, and He has got you.

As the architect of my destiny, I choose to be proactive and active in helping others to find their voices, to make a difference in society and to be able to provide encouragement to those who need it.  You too, are the architect of your destiny, the foundation that you decide to lay and the framework that you decide to create will hold up your dreams and be strong for you to build the life that you see for yourself.  Find your strength and build upon it.  No one can tear you down as long as God is building you up.

                                          God is Able - +Smokie Norful

With inspiration,
Oreadea