Hello Strong Men & Women,
I posted on my IG last evening a vignette of Fantasia Barrino (Taylor) sing "Free Yourself" to hopefully open eyes to the possibility of being really happy. This is 2018, there is no more time or room for anyone who does not treat you good, who does not make you smile, instead you feel lonely and not cared about. (First, let me say, there are individuals out there that are victims of abuse and there is a different dynamic here. I urge anyone being abused to talk with someone who can help in dealing with the how and when for such a relationship. Please call National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224). For those who are not in an abusive relationship and you are holding out hope for a person who is showing you better than they can tell you, that they have no respect for you and have no plans to make you happy, instead, they dishonor you and treat you with disdain, you must begin to count the cost of this. You may feel like you will be too hurt to get over someone, so far from true. Will you hurt, yes...will it take time to get over him or her, yes, it will. However, it is the decision to realize your worth and what you deserve (happiness) that will help you to breathe again. I want to be careful about this, because, I am not saying that you must leave any relationship, I am saying, if you are unhappy, disrespected and made to feel disregarded, you have some thinking to do. God created us to live a life of purpose, joy and courage, not to be torn and broken down by someone who is filled with a displaced ego, who feels big by making you feel small. I can say this, because, I once lived it on many levels with someone who I was with for many years. I would have bet my last penny that he would not have been so horrible, guess what, I would have lost my last penny. So, I am speaking from a place of experience and not television. When you accept the thoughts that this is the only person in the world for you, you break your own heart. you are keeping a seat in your life for someone who does not want to earn it and does not have to earn it. You already gave the seat to him or her.
How can you grow if you do not nurture your life in all areas. You may nuture your health by exercising and that is good, you may eat right to also nurture your health...wonderful, you may pray and go to church to nuture your spirit, this is extremely good, you may take various classes to enhance your knowledge and career...always in order, you may have a great abillity to meet great people and cultivate good friendships....I can go on. I think you have the idea, you can do all of these things, but if you do not work on and nurture your inner-self, you will always lack peace and contentment. If you are praying and going to church, do not neglect the obvious. Stop being afraid to pray for freedom from a relationship that keeps you bound. You can do many things to nurture your life in various areas, but, if you don't accept what is before you and you leave it to grow weeds it will choke out your efforts in the other areas. I can tell you with certainty, if you think you may be unhappy, you are. There is no one walking the earth who is worth any more of your time, attention and effort, when it is not reciprocated. No one can be forced to care and show respect if it is not there intent. You deserve to live with integrity, love and consideration. Never lessen your value in any situation. You are not less than, if anything you are more, because of your big heart and sincerity in how you feel about the other person. Believe it or not, that is a blessing, because your heart is good. You can not be afraid, because you can not see the future without the person who brings you pain, ask yourself, how will it be if you contine with him or her? The only way I know to tell you is to begin to give happiness, joy, respect and love your trust and let these wonderful things navigate you to a good space in your head, in your heart and in your spirit. God will take care of you and will not let you fall. Many times, we pick who we think we want and do not ask God to send us who we need. He wants you to live happy in your relationship, not stressed and unsure. You never need this person, don't believe it, because, it is not anyone's truth.
I am posting this video to provide a message. The song mentions fighting, which, does not simply mean physical fights, it speaks to verbal fights and the push pull emotional struggles to make it what it is not, you so badly want him or her to honor you and they are not willing to honor you. Be faithful to you and your happiness, the picture will be clearer. Ladies and Gentlemen, you deserve love<3
Fantasia "Lose To Win" posted by chanwall2008
With ispiration,
Oreadea
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Thursday, January 4, 2018
Monday, November 14, 2016
What Is Your Monday Song?
Hello Stong Men & Women,
You have been stopped in your tracks interrupted by that very thing that you have notoriously, dodged, ran from, side stepped and frankly feared and you decide to take a chance and not run. As you suspected or maybe not, it blows up and now regret grips your hand tightly to comfort your suspicion, to put you back on the running track and back in shape to dodge, run etc. Well, everything is not going to work out all of the time, at least you dared to try, as the saying goes, "Nothinng beats a failure, but a try." If you decided not to try, because you feared failure, you would have never learned that you can be open to give a chance to something that you have turned your back on for sooo long. Disappointment may set in, but only give it a moment then move on. Everything and everyone is not a good fit, but something or someone is. It does not matter so much if things went good or bad, but that you dared to try. What others may deem as easy, may not be easy for you, the wonderful thing is, if you are valued for trying, if you are worth it and special enough in giving it a chance, then, it will fall into place. Be grateful about what you have learned, take the positive away from the lesson and let that part grow to enhance your future experiences.
I say to you that all of you are beautiful for trying, beautiful souls, beautiful minds, beautiful hearts. Do not be discouraged and by all means, do not revert back to the old, but embrace the newness of what you have unlocked and opened. Baby steps never hurt, but, keep stepping. The right situation, the right person will meet you where you are - wherever that is and will have no pains about showing you that you are worth the wait, the understanding, the talks, the time and so much more.
With that said, breathe deep and exhale:)
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You have been stopped in your tracks interrupted by that very thing that you have notoriously, dodged, ran from, side stepped and frankly feared and you decide to take a chance and not run. As you suspected or maybe not, it blows up and now regret grips your hand tightly to comfort your suspicion, to put you back on the running track and back in shape to dodge, run etc. Well, everything is not going to work out all of the time, at least you dared to try, as the saying goes, "Nothinng beats a failure, but a try." If you decided not to try, because you feared failure, you would have never learned that you can be open to give a chance to something that you have turned your back on for sooo long. Disappointment may set in, but only give it a moment then move on. Everything and everyone is not a good fit, but something or someone is. It does not matter so much if things went good or bad, but that you dared to try. What others may deem as easy, may not be easy for you, the wonderful thing is, if you are valued for trying, if you are worth it and special enough in giving it a chance, then, it will fall into place. Be grateful about what you have learned, take the positive away from the lesson and let that part grow to enhance your future experiences.
I say to you that all of you are beautiful for trying, beautiful souls, beautiful minds, beautiful hearts. Do not be discouraged and by all means, do not revert back to the old, but embrace the newness of what you have unlocked and opened. Baby steps never hurt, but, keep stepping. The right situation, the right person will meet you where you are - wherever that is and will have no pains about showing you that you are worth the wait, the understanding, the talks, the time and so much more.
With that said, breathe deep and exhale:)
Posted by: ThisisRnB Mali Music - Beautiful
Monday, November 25, 2013
What Is Your Monday Song?
Here was my song for Monday.
I was speaking to someone yesterday about relationships and I told her that one can not just feel that the world does not go on without the other person, because, it does and so can you.
Relationships are not easy, but that is different from having someone in your life that does not feel the same as you or who has no interest in commitment. The right person is out there, where, who knows, they could be in another state or country unknowingly making their way to you.
Fantasia "Lose To Win"
With inspiration,
Oreadea
I was speaking to someone yesterday about relationships and I told her that one can not just feel that the world does not go on without the other person, because, it does and so can you.
Relationships are not easy, but that is different from having someone in your life that does not feel the same as you or who has no interest in commitment. The right person is out there, where, who knows, they could be in another state or country unknowingly making their way to you.
Fantasia "Lose To Win"
With inspiration,
Oreadea
Friday, June 7, 2013
Relationship Food For Thought
Hello Everyone,
I had an interesting conversation with a friend about life, relationships and making not so easy life decisions. As far as relationships go, she shared that a friend of hers would like to marry. It has just been a long time dream of hers to be a wife and have a family, but it seems that this dream always outweighs her better judgement in choosing someone who wants a commitment. Now, her current relationship is coming to an end. She was told by the gentleman that when he met her, she was like a shoe in a shoe store that catches your eye, it looks good on the shelf and you ask to try it on with the anticipation that it will not just look good on, but will feel good on. Well, he told her that once he tried on the shoe, it was not a good fit, he walked around a little, even took it home to walk around in it some more to see if he could break it in and make that shoe fit, but it just does not feel good on. It just looks good. She is hurt by this and does not want the relationship to end and wants him to commit.
Ladies and gentlemen, I am not a relationship guru, but we must become whole on our own. No one can complete you, so please do not search the world over for wholeness through someone else. If we are whole than we can be in a relationship happily and if not, if we are whole than we are confident enough to honestly assess what is happening and maybe make some decisions. I mentioned "maybe" because, I am not the one to say leave, take a break or stay. But, I am one to say, stop, inhale, exhale and sit for a while and think about if your heart is being treated the way that you would want and deserve. Everyone, has to decide for themselves what to do, it is one's own relationship, therefore, their decision.
This conversation prompted me to examine acceptance and just how much is accepted and tolerated in relationships. Real love does not have favorites, real love is for everyone, but it is our list of surface things that keep real love from finding us. Just as the shoe this young man described, it looks good, that is surface stuff, but when he put that shoe on and walked around, even gave himself more time and took the shoe home, finally, he saw that the shoe was just not going to fit him well. So, this young lady, he feels is not for him. He got to know her and decided it will not work. This is just a food for thought entry this evening.
Fantasia "Lose to Win"
With inspiration,
Oreadea
I had an interesting conversation with a friend about life, relationships and making not so easy life decisions. As far as relationships go, she shared that a friend of hers would like to marry. It has just been a long time dream of hers to be a wife and have a family, but it seems that this dream always outweighs her better judgement in choosing someone who wants a commitment. Now, her current relationship is coming to an end. She was told by the gentleman that when he met her, she was like a shoe in a shoe store that catches your eye, it looks good on the shelf and you ask to try it on with the anticipation that it will not just look good on, but will feel good on. Well, he told her that once he tried on the shoe, it was not a good fit, he walked around a little, even took it home to walk around in it some more to see if he could break it in and make that shoe fit, but it just does not feel good on. It just looks good. She is hurt by this and does not want the relationship to end and wants him to commit.
Ladies and gentlemen, I am not a relationship guru, but we must become whole on our own. No one can complete you, so please do not search the world over for wholeness through someone else. If we are whole than we can be in a relationship happily and if not, if we are whole than we are confident enough to honestly assess what is happening and maybe make some decisions. I mentioned "maybe" because, I am not the one to say leave, take a break or stay. But, I am one to say, stop, inhale, exhale and sit for a while and think about if your heart is being treated the way that you would want and deserve. Everyone, has to decide for themselves what to do, it is one's own relationship, therefore, their decision.
This conversation prompted me to examine acceptance and just how much is accepted and tolerated in relationships. Real love does not have favorites, real love is for everyone, but it is our list of surface things that keep real love from finding us. Just as the shoe this young man described, it looks good, that is surface stuff, but when he put that shoe on and walked around, even gave himself more time and took the shoe home, finally, he saw that the shoe was just not going to fit him well. So, this young lady, he feels is not for him. He got to know her and decided it will not work. This is just a food for thought entry this evening.
Fantasia "Lose to Win"
With inspiration,
Oreadea
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