We so desire to hear those 3 little words, "I am sorry." If they are not sincere, what are they really worth to you? Throughout life people are going to do and say things that are hurtful and we feel that an apology is in order. Yes, it is, but, don't force anyone to give it and do not feel that there is no closure if you do not get one. Here is the key, if you can forgive and move passed it, it is better than an empty, "I am sorry." If something is on your chest let the person know, do not let them walk around oblivious to your feelings. It is not fair to consider it common sense for them to know that you were wounded by their words. It is best to have a moment with him/her to express how you feel, but, be prepared to put it behind you after that. If you do not get an apology, just use it as a measuring stick to govern your interaction with him/her in the future.
Too often, we feel that an apology equals closure. However, your feeling of closure is not predicated on those 3 little words. Closure really comes from knowing that you are whole without it. Have I had first-hand experience with feeling the need for an apology and did not get one? Absolutely, it took me a minute to realize that an apology is not going to provide closure for me, because, I knew that it would not be sincere. So, what did I do? I began to examine the character of the person as I came to see it. You may not come to anything in particular, however, take heed to how a person reacts to you from that point on. My Dad would always says, "You are what you are when you act." I found this to be so true and I measure accordingly. My point is, an apology is not needed to bring wholeness to you. You are already whole and if it never comes, it will not change the fact that you are whole already. It is not a good feeling to feel dismissed by anyone, however, keep your power. Do not give an inch of it away by persistently wanting someone to acknowledge your feelings. Sometimes, it just may not happen.
If you never get an apology, it is ok. You can now see a little clearer into the character of a person and can choose to be cautious. You want to have genuine people in your corner, who will acknowledge you when you are hurt and who will truly care about your heart. Do not be dismayed, instead, feel relieved about the revelation that you now see what you did not see previously. Would you rather an empty apology or sincere one? With that asked, assess, measure and govern things accordingly.
Last, but not least, pray for comfort of your hurt, counsel in dealing with it and look forward to an emotional growth spurt. Don't be arrested in this, wake up and see you as whole no matter an apology or not.
Jill Scott - When I Wake Up Posted By: Shonta Evans
https://youtu.be/bRD-UrveqBQ
With inspiration,
Oreadea
Saturday, October 15, 2016
Monday, September 12, 2016
You Thought You Could But, Found Out That You Could Not....
My Strong Sisters & Brothers,
We must not leave God out of any equation. Many times, we feel that solving a problem is doable, not necessarily easy, but can be done our way. Well, allow me not to be the messenger of bad news, but, of good news. God is the answer, for He never leaves us alone. In life, we feel that we do so much on our own, but we really do not. How about wake up each day, have the function of limbs, have a stable mind, care and have a true concern for others or go through even (1) day free from hurt, harm or danger. We can easily feel that if we inhale and exhale that it is all us, but no, it is God giving us life, when we awaken, we think, it is "because our bodies have an alarm clock." However, it is God blessing us with another day, when we think things over and reconcile our problems or even decide to brush our teeth and eat, it is God that is keeping our minds, when our hearts have love for others, it is God that we are sharing with others. God is there for us through everything and we must keep Him in everything.
Many, Many times we think that we are a bother to God, because, we cry to Him so often about the same problem, can you believe that He is there every time. He will wait on us to put our entire trust in Him. He already knows what to do with our problems and how to fix them. Unfortunately, we are so easy to just pass our control, our happiness and our securities over to others. Yet, we hold on to the very thing that God asks us to give Him, our troubles, our cares, our burdens. He wants to make us whole, not leave us in a broken state. We must allow Him to help us put the pieces back together. He can make us brand new and free from torment, worry, stress, doubt and depression. I added doubt, because, we are so held down from climbing up due to doubting that we can do anything right. Well, God does not agree with that, He wants to raise us up, lift our heads and give us confidence in His name.
There is no shame what so ever in admitting that we can not do things alone. We should request the presence and intervention of God to come to our rescue, to make a wonderful difference in our lives, to counsel us and give us pure joy in our hearts, bless our feet that we may walk in the strength that He commands. All of this, He promises to do for us right here on earth. All we have to do is to stop thinking that we can do it alone and give God the controls. No one or nothing is greater than He.
Kirk Franklin - Hold Me Now Posted by PuertoRRRican
With inspiration,
Oreadea
We must not leave God out of any equation. Many times, we feel that solving a problem is doable, not necessarily easy, but can be done our way. Well, allow me not to be the messenger of bad news, but, of good news. God is the answer, for He never leaves us alone. In life, we feel that we do so much on our own, but we really do not. How about wake up each day, have the function of limbs, have a stable mind, care and have a true concern for others or go through even (1) day free from hurt, harm or danger. We can easily feel that if we inhale and exhale that it is all us, but no, it is God giving us life, when we awaken, we think, it is "because our bodies have an alarm clock." However, it is God blessing us with another day, when we think things over and reconcile our problems or even decide to brush our teeth and eat, it is God that is keeping our minds, when our hearts have love for others, it is God that we are sharing with others. God is there for us through everything and we must keep Him in everything.
Many, Many times we think that we are a bother to God, because, we cry to Him so often about the same problem, can you believe that He is there every time. He will wait on us to put our entire trust in Him. He already knows what to do with our problems and how to fix them. Unfortunately, we are so easy to just pass our control, our happiness and our securities over to others. Yet, we hold on to the very thing that God asks us to give Him, our troubles, our cares, our burdens. He wants to make us whole, not leave us in a broken state. We must allow Him to help us put the pieces back together. He can make us brand new and free from torment, worry, stress, doubt and depression. I added doubt, because, we are so held down from climbing up due to doubting that we can do anything right. Well, God does not agree with that, He wants to raise us up, lift our heads and give us confidence in His name.
There is no shame what so ever in admitting that we can not do things alone. We should request the presence and intervention of God to come to our rescue, to make a wonderful difference in our lives, to counsel us and give us pure joy in our hearts, bless our feet that we may walk in the strength that He commands. All of this, He promises to do for us right here on earth. All we have to do is to stop thinking that we can do it alone and give God the controls. No one or nothing is greater than He.
Kirk Franklin - Hold Me Now Posted by PuertoRRRican
With inspiration,
Oreadea
Monday, September 5, 2016
When You Don't Feel Ready For Change
Hello Strong Men & Women,
There comes a time in life when change is inevitable, but, we are just not ready. The part of us that is not ready, is uncomfortable and can not see all that change will bring. However, if it is for the better of your health, sanity or spiritual well being, then guess what, you are in for a pleasant surprise. Many times, we become complacent in pain, misery, grief or meritocracy and there is no real vision or perception of change, it is too unfamiliar. Complacency steals time, joy and dreams. We are made to fulfill purpose in life, God does not want us to not live our purpose, nor does He want us to stay stuck in any situation.
Change can be shockingly painful, because, we realize that we may have to leave others behind that pull us down, let go of negative situations in our lives, give God control and do as He says and at times, it can really hurt. However, it is what is best, if we truly want to be happy.
Change for the better can only make you better. There is nothing that God can not do, so you know that He can step right in the middle of your situation and pull you to the top. We only get (1) life and it is not for others to destroy, but for us to live and live it to the best of our ability. We can not control others, but we can be in control of us. We know in our hearts what is going to improve our life, it is the sigh of not wanting this to be our reality, but most times, it is. Therefore, if we choose not to change, the situation will only stay the same or worsen. My advice to you is to pray, tell God your fears, but also, give Him your trust.
You will be o.k. You may not be ready for change, change is ready for you.
I hope the song below inspires you.
Smokie Norful "The Middle" Posted By TAFaithMinistries
With inspiration,
Oreadea
There comes a time in life when change is inevitable, but, we are just not ready. The part of us that is not ready, is uncomfortable and can not see all that change will bring. However, if it is for the better of your health, sanity or spiritual well being, then guess what, you are in for a pleasant surprise. Many times, we become complacent in pain, misery, grief or meritocracy and there is no real vision or perception of change, it is too unfamiliar. Complacency steals time, joy and dreams. We are made to fulfill purpose in life, God does not want us to not live our purpose, nor does He want us to stay stuck in any situation.
Change can be shockingly painful, because, we realize that we may have to leave others behind that pull us down, let go of negative situations in our lives, give God control and do as He says and at times, it can really hurt. However, it is what is best, if we truly want to be happy.
Change for the better can only make you better. There is nothing that God can not do, so you know that He can step right in the middle of your situation and pull you to the top. We only get (1) life and it is not for others to destroy, but for us to live and live it to the best of our ability. We can not control others, but we can be in control of us. We know in our hearts what is going to improve our life, it is the sigh of not wanting this to be our reality, but most times, it is. Therefore, if we choose not to change, the situation will only stay the same or worsen. My advice to you is to pray, tell God your fears, but also, give Him your trust.
You will be o.k. You may not be ready for change, change is ready for you.
I hope the song below inspires you.
Smokie Norful "The Middle" Posted By TAFaithMinistries
Oreadea
Friday, October 31, 2014
Never Give Up On You
Hello everyone,
I want to encourage you to never give up on yourself. God never gives up on us and is always in our corner wanting us to see and use the gift that He placed in us. We, however, must see it and begin to believe in ourselves. We have so much to give that can make a difference in the lives of others. We can not concern ourselves with critics, but must begin to share the good that is our gifts.
Believe and never give up on you
Yolanda Adams "Never Give Up" Posted by Jahlight4ever
With inspiration,
Oreadea
I want to encourage you to never give up on yourself. God never gives up on us and is always in our corner wanting us to see and use the gift that He placed in us. We, however, must see it and begin to believe in ourselves. We have so much to give that can make a difference in the lives of others. We can not concern ourselves with critics, but must begin to share the good that is our gifts.
Believe and never give up on you
Yolanda Adams "Never Give Up" Posted by Jahlight4ever
With inspiration,
Oreadea
Monday, September 29, 2014
God Knows
Hello Everyone,
I want to impress upon you to never feel or think that you are invisible to God or that He can not hear your silent prayers. He hears and sees you. He just may not move at the pace we want, but it is out of love for us that He moves at His timing. His timing is perfect. So, with that said, here is a poem, I composed for you.
I want to impress upon you to never feel or think that you are invisible to God or that He can not hear your silent prayers. He hears and sees you. He just may not move at the pace we want, but it is out of love for us that He moves at His timing. His timing is perfect. So, with that said, here is a poem, I composed for you.
God Knows
You cry inside with tears on the rim of your eyes
You hide your scream in the wind, because you can no longer scream within
You wear a mask so no one will know, parading an unauthentic smile so that your hurt will not show
He Knows
The leaves on the trees shake because they feel your fear
The wolves slowly creep, they smell you near
They smell your lack of hope, your weakening ability to cope,
they smell the emptiness of your soul, they plan for your fall while creeping low
God awaits to protect you, He already knows
There is no way that you can feel that God can not understand
No problem so big that He can not crush with His Hand
No sorrow so sad that He can not give His peace
No hurt so deep that He can not reach
No seed so small from which flowers can not grow
Nothing so secret that He will not know
God knows you and is always there,
He shows up in so many ways to show how He cares
He blocks you from danger of which you may never be aware
If you just have faith the size of a mustard seed
That is all He asks, is just for your belief
No matter what comes and no matter what goes
God is there in advance, because, He already knows
Trueyouness
copyright 2014
Friday, September 5, 2014
How To Believe
Hello Everyone,
Life is something that we can not predict it's every twist and turn, we hope, pray and anticipate. This is where believing and faith comes into play. We are not made to know everything, nor could we handle it if we did. God knows how much we can bare and when we can bare it. Thus, life happens.
So, how does one believe? First, you must believe that God is almighty and that He keeps His word no mater what. We, however, must trust Him and look to Him for help. One believes by accepting the fact that God may not come when we want Him, but, He is always on time. One believes by surrendering worries upon Him and trusting that He will come through. One believes by letting God be there through it all and yield not to how one perceives things should be, but, look forward to God's results, which will far exceed anything one could ever imagine.
I have learned that God is a true friend and wonderful heavenly Father. He makes His presence known, when we need His shoulder to lean upon, He will let us lean as long as we need. Someone very near and dear to me once recited the Serenity Prayer to me, I am so thankful. It helped me so much. I would always reflect on the first part. I would like to share the entire prayer with you.
Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.
Believe that God will come through.
With inspiration,
Oreadea
Life is something that we can not predict it's every twist and turn, we hope, pray and anticipate. This is where believing and faith comes into play. We are not made to know everything, nor could we handle it if we did. God knows how much we can bare and when we can bare it. Thus, life happens.
So, how does one believe? First, you must believe that God is almighty and that He keeps His word no mater what. We, however, must trust Him and look to Him for help. One believes by accepting the fact that God may not come when we want Him, but, He is always on time. One believes by surrendering worries upon Him and trusting that He will come through. One believes by letting God be there through it all and yield not to how one perceives things should be, but, look forward to God's results, which will far exceed anything one could ever imagine.
I have learned that God is a true friend and wonderful heavenly Father. He makes His presence known, when we need His shoulder to lean upon, He will let us lean as long as we need. Someone very near and dear to me once recited the Serenity Prayer to me, I am so thankful. It helped me so much. I would always reflect on the first part. I would like to share the entire prayer with you.
Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.
Believe that God will come through.
With inspiration,
Oreadea
Friday, August 22, 2014
Hello Everyone,
I am so sorry for not being consistent, what I have been going through has taken a toll and my heart really wanted to write, but I just did not have the words. I am on Facebook and it is easy to just post, but it takes energy and drive to write. So, here I am again, but this time, I will write for now, at least once a week. If I can help or encourage someone, I feel it in my heart to do that even in my storm.
So, to start here is a song of encouragement. I have learned first hand, that faith is truly a walk of believing that God is there when you cry, smile or are just lost for words. He just wants to help and give love to heal our hearts, but it is a matter of giving him the broken pieces.
Smokie Norful "I Know Too Much About Him" Posted by: ULLKayKay
With inspiration,
Oreadea
I am so sorry for not being consistent, what I have been going through has taken a toll and my heart really wanted to write, but I just did not have the words. I am on Facebook and it is easy to just post, but it takes energy and drive to write. So, here I am again, but this time, I will write for now, at least once a week. If I can help or encourage someone, I feel it in my heart to do that even in my storm.
So, to start here is a song of encouragement. I have learned first hand, that faith is truly a walk of believing that God is there when you cry, smile or are just lost for words. He just wants to help and give love to heal our hearts, but it is a matter of giving him the broken pieces.
Smokie Norful "I Know Too Much About Him" Posted by: ULLKayKay
With inspiration,
Oreadea
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