Relationship Food For Thought

Hello Everyone,

I had an interesting conversation with a friend about life, relationships and making not so easy life decisions.  As far as relationships go, she shared that a friend of hers would like to marry.  It has just been a long time dream of hers to be a wife and have a family, but it seems that this dream always outweighs her better judgement in choosing someone who wants a commitment.  Now, her current relationship is coming to an end.  She was told by the gentleman that when he met her, she was like a shoe in a shoe store that catches your eye, it looks good on the shelf and you ask to try it on with the anticipation that it will not just look good on, but will feel good on.  Well, he told her that once he tried on the shoe, it was not a good fit, he walked around a little, even took it home to walk around in it some more to see if he could break it in and make that shoe fit, but it just does not feel good on.  It just looks good.  She is hurt by this and does not want the relationship to end and wants him to commit.

Ladies and gentlemen, I am not a relationship guru, but we must become whole on our own.  No one can complete you, so please do not search the world over for wholeness through someone else.  If we are whole than we can be in a relationship happily and if not, if we are whole than we are confident enough to honestly assess what is happening and maybe make some decisions.  I mentioned "maybe" because, I am not the one to say leave, take a break or stay. But, I am one to say, stop, inhale, exhale and sit for a while and think about if your heart is being treated the way that you would want and deserve.  Everyone, has to decide for themselves what to do, it is one's own relationship, therefore, their decision.

This conversation prompted me to examine acceptance and just how much is accepted and tolerated in relationships.  Real love does not have favorites, real love is for everyone, but it is our list of surface things that keep real love from finding us.  Just as the shoe this young man described, it looks good, that is surface stuff, but when he put that shoe on and walked around, even gave himself more time and took the shoe home, finally, he saw that the shoe was just not going to fit him well.  So, this young lady, he feels is not for him.  He got to know her and decided it will not work.  This is just a food for thought entry this evening.


Fantasia "Lose to Win"

With inspiration,
Oreadea